When Things Get Out of Hand
I really hate it when I lose control of a situation. In the past, when things got out of hand, I had a tendency to lose my temper and I automatically went into panic mode. As soon as the situation rattled me, things then began to actually fall apart. I found myself running to find help from others to repair the damage.
After attending several psychology classes and as I finished my life coaching training seminars, I soon realized the error of my ways. I found out that I could still take control of any situation if I handle them with the proper approach. Here are some things to remember when things get out of hand.
Once things begin to overwhelm you, close your eyes and tell yourself “Don’t panic!” You have to be able to recognize a panic attack once it hits. The sooner you realize this, the faster you can put a stop to it.
As soon as you realize you are going into panic, you have to find ways to stay calm as you handle the difficult situation. Educate yourself of some easy breathing exercises as well as other relaxation techniques that will help you keep your cool as you handle the challenge you are facing.
Hold Your Tongue
When a problem arises and you are under pressure, you have to learn to think before you speak. Remind yourself that what you say can either be helpful or destructive. Be smart enough to foresee the possible outcome of everything that you will say. Never speak out of anger. Be rational. Do not say things that you might regret later on.
Take Time To Reflect
If the situation allows it, walk away from the place where the conflict is happening. Take the time to sit quietly and reflect on the situation. A simple pause to think of a solution may just be the one thing you need to gain back your control. Try taking a walk to clear your mind or try sleeping first before making any rash decision. The right ideas will come to you once your brain is well rested and you are more calm and relaxed.
Focus on The Solution
Many people make the mistake of putting their focus on the problem when faced with a difficult situation. Any effective problem solver knows that stating the problem over and over will not solve anything. Stop pointing fingers and putting the blame on others. Start pointing all your attention to finding a solution. Seek and you shall find, right?
Ask For Help
Of course, there will be times when a problem may be too big for one person to handle alone. Be smart enough to recognize these moments. Swallow your pride and ask for help when you really need it. As the saying goes, “Two heads are better than one.” You will be surprised how fast things will fall back into place with some brain storming and a dose of cooperation.
Fight For What Is Right